So if you’ve read my other posts, you’ve also read about my experiences dating a girl at an all girl’s college. The girl that I loved very dearly there was and is wonderful, however this rant isn’t about her.
As I’ve mentioned before, while I hung out there I often times had to be around her friends. Some of them were clicky, others downright had no respect for anyone that wasn’t a female who flew the flag of feminism.
One particular girl recently messaged me, asking why I hadn’t talked to her since I broke it off with the girl I was seeing. I blocked her off on facebook because I couldn’t stand the constant rhetoric anymore, right or wrong. I explained to her the reason for doing so was because I associated a lot of negativity with her and her group of friends and the way they treated me. This escalated into an argument about difficulties in life, and how people should respect each other regarding these. The usual business; everyone has their own struggle.
But I very much disagree with the idea that there’s no objective difference between hardships, and comparing the two is irrelevant. She came from a difficult place, sure. But she attended one of the countries most expensive schools. She had her food made for her, a safe campus to occupy, friends just a door away, and while there didn’t have to pay out of pocket. I’m sorry, but when your parents can afford to give that to you, it’s certainly another form of privilege.
Now, you might say “But Kevin, you’re a white cis male, what difficulties do you have? You don’t know of hardship”
Listen man, I was raised in a drug-using home, where I went hungry because my parents were too drunk and high to provide for me. So I was always dangerously under weight (and why I still have a guilt complex when I eat as much as a normal person) Tie in to that EXTREME physical and mental abuse, to the point where I joined the military. I figured if I was shot and killed it would still be better than being at my parent’s house, and it was certainly the only way I would ever be able to afford college.
Fast forward to today. I work 60-70 hours a week to afford everything in my life. With no outside help whatsoever. I’ve made myself and the life I live through my own willpower. I’m putting myself through college through my own hard work and dedication, working this insane amount of hours and attending classes. Tell me I’m privileged. I had no advantages over these girls, in fact I came from a background that most people just fall into drug use and become nothing.
But sure, being disrespectful toward me because I don’t fly your flag and I’m just a “privileged white male” totally makes sense. Your quarter of a million dollars, even if on loans, that put you through school isn’t a privilege in life at all.