THIS RIGHT HERE THIS BULLSHIT IS WHAT GIVES FEMINISM A BAD NAME. This degrading comic is just another way ignorant people label feminists as crazy men-haters. People need to understand that feminism isn’t about blaming men, it’s about creating equality for women and men. None of the oppression women experience is imaginary, and joking that it’s made up invalidates the abuse and inequality women experience not only in our country, but around the world.
I’m curious why you think feminism is about equality when:
- Mary Koss helped keep rape penetrative, effectively erasing male victims of woman-on-male rape and woman-on-woman rape in the law’s eyes.
- Feminists support the Duluth model, where men are always assumed to be the dangerous party in a domestic disturbance by the police. When it is proven that women and men batter approximately the same rate.
- Feminists protest discussions about men’s issues, held by a gay man and a woman, and go so far as to commit a crime by pulling a fire alarm.
- Feminists threatened the British women who pioneered the women’s shelter system. With bomb threats, threats of violence against her family and killing her dog. When she dared support a movement for men’s shelters.
- Feminists promoting alimony change in Florida to prevent women from paying their husbands money, since for the first time in recent memory men were eligible for alimony
- Feminists promote the bullshit wage gap, misrepresenting it as ill intent when it is really a national average based on women’s choices, not employer intent.
- The existence of the “Don’t be that guy” campaign, which paints all men as rapists by default, who need to be educated that rape is bad. And erases the victims of women-on-woman and woman-on-man rape.
Guess what? Patriarchy, internalized misogyny and #Yesallwomen are exactly what the comic is describing. Patriarchy blames men for everything, even when men suffer, calling it “Patriarchy backfiring”. Internalized misogyny blames men for women who don’t agree with feminism, portraying men as brain washing, controllers who force women into agreeing with them. And #yesallwomen is blaming men for the faults of a few, while at the same time painting women as perfect, innocent angels who are incapable of doing the same thing to both men and women.
It is utterly, completely disgusting how feminism blames men for everything while ignoring the women who batter, rape, demean, shame and other hateful things that men get blamed for. It constantly makes non-gendered issues into gendered issues.
Oh. And because it blames men all the time, it effectively erases the victims of lesbian and woman-on-woman hate, violence and rape.
So, please, shut up about it being about equality.
I seriously encourage you to look at the example I gave in my previous post showing how there are always extremists, but you can’t take feminism out of it’s true context, which is EQUALITY, because of the things this extremists have done. Also, you know what Mary Koss also did? Her research helped from the statistic that
1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime. Keeping rape penetrative is wrong, I agree, and that is one change I, as a feminist, am fighting for. Rape is horrible no matter who it happens to and this country has a huge problem when it comes to victim-blaming. Of course men can be, and are, raped. However, don’t discredit the amount of sexual harassment and rape women experience by saying feminists “blame men” for the oppression women face. And the “bullshit wage gap”? I would like you to explain to me how THE FUCK it is a woman’s CHOICE to be payed less than a man. That is just idiotic to even think that.
As for the claim about the Florida alimony law, it goes both ways. Both men and women were forced to pay alimony in an unfair way and both men and women have stories about their ex-spouses refusing to pay alimony or that they had to pay an unrealistic amount to their ex-spouse. It’s not all on the men’s side there. The law itself is the problem. And returning to the victim-blaming I mentioned earlier, of course men need to be educated on consent. Everyone does. But when we have incidents such as James Madison University and statistics that show 1 in 4 women will be raped in their lifetime, it makes so much more sense to educate men on what consent is and that it’s wrong to rape than to constantly be teaching our daughters how to not get raped and how to avoid sexual assault. We live in a society that makes it seem like rape is inevitable so women have to prepare to prevent it as best they can. I don’t have enough fingers or toes to count the number of women I know who have been raped. That alone shows that there is a serious problem in our society. FEMINISM IS ABOUT EQUALITY. WHAT’S BULLSHIT IS THINKING THAT WOMEN AND MEN ARE OPPRESSED EQUALLY. WOMEN AND MEN SHOULD BE EQUAL, BUT WOMEN HAVE MORE OBSTACLES THAN MEN TO OVERCOME TO GET TO THAT POINT. IT ISN’T BLAMING MEN TO REALIZE THAT A LOT OF OPPRESSION WOMEN FACE IN OUR SOCIETY COMES FROM MEN. OF COURSE WE HAVEN’T GOTTEN TO THE POINT OF EQUALITY, BUT DON’T DISCREDIT FEMINISM BECAUSE YOU THINK MEN STRUGGLE MORE IN THIS SOCIETY THAN WOMEN DO. And one more thing, don’t fucking tell me to shut up. It’s a waste of your breath.
Mary Koss’ 1/4 statistic has been debunked as being highly biased and ignoring the intent of women. In Mary Koss’ study, any woman who said she had sex when she didn’t feel like it, any woman who had sex while intoxicated, was considered rape. Even if the woman herself didn’t consider it rape or even went on to date or marry her ‘rapist’. Mary Koss has a history of manipulating people and numbers to incite anti-male sentiment.
The wage gap is due to women’s choices in the fields they go into and make on the job. You’re aware the 77/100 ‘wage gap’ is an average and is not indicative of personal, individual earnings, right? It is the national average. All men combined make more than all women combined. And when you look at the consad report on the subject, it becomes clear that women (as a whole, not individually) make less because of things like maternity leave, cutting their hours to be stay at home moms, men taking the dirty or dangerous jobs that pay more or have hazard pay, men working more overtime and similar. In short, the gap is created because women choose to enter careers that pay less, choose to take less overtime or choose to be part time workers. Likewise, men choose to take more overtime, choose more dangerous jobs and similar. The fact that unwed women without children make, on average, MORE than unwed men without children should tell you that the wage gap is a myth.
And the alimony law was because, in Florida, women were not typically paying alimony. But due to the economic crash, enough men were actually earning less that men were starting to register for alimony from their wives. As a result, feminists lobbied to change the laws so that men would be ineligible for alimony. No matter how you slice that, it is pure self interest and not equality.
And no, people don’t need to be ‘educated’ on consent. RAINN, the national experts and advocates for rape victims, came out and said that young men actually know early on that rape is wrong. It is people with the intent to rape who are raping, not people who ‘accidentally rape’. And, in fact, RAINN went on to say that concepts like ‘rape culture’ and ‘don’t be that guy’ actually hurt rape victims. They provide smokescreens for serial rapists.
Nevermind that when you actually take the yearly stats and when you consider cases that WOULD count as rape if woman-on-man rape counted as rape, you’d have as many men raped by women each year as women raped by men. Do you get that? Men are raped by women at the same rate as women are raped by men.
It is very, VERY clear you just swallow whatever bullshit feminism spews at you. You don’t do your own research, you don’t actually look at numbers or stats. You are the reason why feminism isn’t for equality anymore, because you take flawed, fake or flat out wrong statistics and wave them around as truths because the feminist leadership tells you they’re truths.
The wage gap isn’t real. The 1/4 statistic is false. Men are raped at the same rate as women (if you include ‘forced to penetrate’ as rape, which it currently isn’t).
The fact that you think women are more oppressed than men just shows you don’t look at the numbers. Men are more likely to commit suicide. Men are more likely to be homeless. Men are more likely to die on the job. Men have no reproductive rights. Men have harsher jail sentences than women for the exact same crime. Men, by law, cannot be raped. Men are battered by their wives at the same rate as women, yet men’s shelters don’t really exist. Men are raped at the same rate as women are, yet men are the ones being portrayed as base, crude beasts. Men are more likely than women to suffer every other form of street violence (mugging, homicide, assault) except rape. Men have lower graduation rates and lower acceptance rates into post-secondary.
And guess what? Whenever ANYONE tries to talk about this stuff, feminists rally and protest. They phone in bomb threats, they pull fire alarms, they call them rape apologists and monsters.
You are not for equality. You are supporting a movement that has become anti-man. You are supporting false facts and a biased worldview that blinds you to the suffering of the other gender.
OH. And as an aside, I’d like to say that I was a hardcore feminist and I no longer are. Because I’m a lesbian and I don’t appreciate the fact that feminism frequently ignores my trials. The “homophobia is the fear that a gay man will treat you like a straight woman” erases the homophobia I experience FROM WOMEN (note how it, again, puts all the fault on men). I also don’t like that feminism does it’s damnedest to erased my rape at the hands of my girlfriend (because feminists don’t even acknowledge lesbian rape).
Maybe you should do what I do. Maybe you should open yourself up to outside opinions, outside statistics and outside views. Because all feminism is doing for you is filling your head with falsehoods and blocking all attempts to tell you otherwise.
It is a cult. And just like cults, I found myself on the outside and realized what a sucker I’d have been played for. All the misinformation, all the lies, all the false statistics, suddenly came crashing down the moment I started thinking for myself and doing research.
So no, feminism is not for equality. It has painted you a picture that women are horrifically oppressed and men are not. And you bought that picture without question and refuse to look away from that. You are the ignorant foot soldiers the feminist leadership use to promote their hate. You think you’re fighting for equality when, in reality, you are not.
Reblogging for everything above.